Links

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Here are a few links that captured my attention this week:

1.  Congratulations to Rosie on her TED talk on failure and vulnerability.  She talks about how creative work makes you vulnerable and relates an ability to tolerate vulnerability to perseverance and success.  I resonated with how hard it can be to get negative feedback on creative work.  I got flashbacks of my university painting critique.  Every person’s work before mine sparked lively discussion.  When it was my turn, there was dead silence.  It was awful, soul crushing.  It ended well though because weeks later the dean of the art school stole my painting and had it exhibited at the state capitol building. It can feel vulnerable writing here too.  I’m not a “writer”, I just happen to write (mediocrely), and in order to keep doing it, I had to develop a tolerance for negative judgment. Continue reading “Links”

outfit: loose associations

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Here’s a quick outfit post with a top from Kowtow that was meant to replace my retired, beloved, tattered and torn French Connection top (see below).  By the time I recycled it, it had been worn on at least a biweekly basis for 7 years!  It had about 10 holes in it (I know, shameful!).  My BF bluntly told me it had to go.  He was right.  I don’t get why I liked this top so much.  Technically, it’s ugly.  But I thought it was interesting.  I’m not into prints usually, but something about a bold black print, that isn’t full of motifs, and isn’t symmetrical, I found intriguing.  I liked how it seemed to tell an abstract story and felt sort of like a Rorschach test.  And of course, I’m always a sucker for a loose cotton boxy top that looks good tucked and untucked. Continue reading “outfit: loose associations”

outfit: crisp heavy weight cotton

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There’s no fabric I grab more than crisp heavy weight cottons.  I like its nice dry hand feel.  And the way the heavy weight creates an off the body structured silhouette, while still being thin enough to tuck in.  I’m a big fan of letting the buttons and pockets of jeans show, and learned that to do that, it’s better to buy jeans that are forgiving around the waist for a good, 360 degrees, all-around tuck in.   Continue reading “outfit: crisp heavy weight cotton”

a brutal clean-out + an Everlane dud

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My closet saw several more senior members go into retirement this week.  Just when I thought I had whittled  it down to the bare minimum, stylish drunk friends tell you that a few ugly pieces has got to go (love that!).  To be honest, I hated these things.  They lingered because I actually wore them to death.  I’m talking 5, 6, 10 years of regular wear.  I’m talking so many cycles through the dryer that the once long sleeves are now 3/4 sleeves.  I’ve evolved and outgrown these things.  Also I’ve learned, I can’t do crop tops anymore.  Just can’t.  Too old.  What a relief!  Getting honest feedback about my wardrobe reaffirmed my doubts about things that were hard to let go.  And when I disagreed–that automatic reaction–reaffirmed my love for certain “ugly” things.  I’m guessing you have something “ugly” in your closet that only you like? And the only person you’re wearing it for is yourself.  That’s OK.  More than OK.  That’s great!

And speaking of ugly… anyone else see Everlane’s new modern babo shoes in green?  I’m trying hard to imagine these looking good, but I keep picturing elves.

my bare bones beauty routine

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I’m gonna go out on a limb and say it:  I think most beauty routines out in the blogosphere are stupid; most are unnecessarily complicated and offer marginal benefit over simply washing & moisturizing.  I have fairly “good” skin, at least I’ve been told I do. Every once in a while, a few blemishes pop up, and you have to be very close in bright light to see any fine lines; it’s no big deal.  I’ve tried a lot of beauty products in my life and quit almost all of them, now that I’m older and wiser.  Continue reading “my bare bones beauty routine”

The value of one hour to think about one thing.

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Sixty minutes, two times a day, 5 days per week = 10 HOURS.  That’s the amount of time I spend commuting each week.  I try to make the most out of that time.  As of late, I phased out listening to my usual politics podcasts because, well, it was getting toxic.  Then I discovered the value of choosing to think about one thing for one hour during my commute. I’ve been using this time to think creatively. I start by selecting from a mental menu of options to think about.   Continue reading “The value of one hour to think about one thing.”

outfit: hardworking basics

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Here’s another outfit with my hardworking staples.  Getting dressed feels so much easier these days.  I wore this casual outfit to work, except for the sandals.  I’m liking sweaters with extra long arms that can be folded or used to keep the hands warm.  These trousers from j. crew have been going strong for 5 years now.  They are a size 2!  I think I’m actually a size 6, for reference.  If I ever need to replace them I’m going to search for it secondhand.  Quality mainstream clothes make good secondhand purchases because they are easy to find and you know what to expect.   Continue reading “outfit: hardworking basics”

apt tour: the bedroom sofa is where I do my work

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According to my reader’s poll, a lot of you guys wanted to see my apartment, so here goes.  It’s daunting to photograph my whole apartment in one day, so I’m going to break it down and start a series of posts on small areas.  I’ll try to keep it authentic (that means no staging).

Let me start by saying, I love interior design.  My favorite past time is re-arranging furniture and coming up with new ideas on how to repurpose things.  My BF and I have lived in this apartment for about 4 years.  It’s come a long way on a small budget.  We live in a 750 sq ft railroad style apartment in an old run down four story walk up in NYC.  It’s size and layout has posed a lot of challenges, but I think we’ve been able to make it work.

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