This post is going to be about how I really wanted a piece of clothing, something happened, and suddenly I didn’t want it anymore.
This happened in a straight forward way when I tried these square toe flats from Everlane. I’d been stalking these shoes since they were first announced a few weeks ago and after reading a few good reviews about them, decided to give them a try. The black ones look classic and stunning in person, but unfortunately they are too tight across the top of my feet, and leave linear indentations on my skin after a brief period of wear. It’s a bummer they don’t fit because they look so good and would be the perfect work shoe.
Just prior to buying these shoes, I was obsessed with the Martiniano flats, particularly the one in umber. I had been stalking them for much longer and really wanted a pair, but then something happened and I suddenly didn’t want them anymore! I met a friend for lunch at a pho restaurant in a very hipster part of town. A man and woman were sitting at the table right next to ours. When they got up to leave, I caught a 2 second glimpse at the woman’s shoes.
She was wearing the Martinianos! I of course recognized them right away and tracked them with my eyes, even turning my head to get a better view. They looked just as good in person as they did online. But something about the act of recognizing them so easily in person, made me suddenly realize I didn’t want to be on the receiving end of that interaction. I didn’t want to wear something so recognizable, and maybe not so recognizably expensive too. I don’t think I could’ve predicted the reaction I had to my own reaction. I still love the design and admire them on other people, but it’s no longer something I want for myself.
A similar thing happened with this beautiful teddy bear coat I tried on at Bloomingdales from Maje. It’s a thick, luscious coat, with unique architectural details.
When I wore it, I felt like such a “cool girl”, which was something I simultaneously wanted and wanted to disavow. Then a few weeks later, I was again in a hipster part of town at a bar arcade restaurant joint, and noticed the same coat on a very cool looking girl, wearing jeans, white sneakers, and a long beanie that was just barely on her head, such that it looked more like the loose tip of a condom (eek). She was texting at rapid speed on her cell phone. Her friend in an almost identical outfit showed up a minute later, and they snapped a few selfies. Her entire outfit, the whole scene, was so “cool”, and then suddenly, I didn’t want the coat anymore. It felt a tad too young, and trendy.
Seeing the things I really wanted out in the wild, on someone else, changed my perspective. It was an interesting effect.
On a positive note, these relaxed chinos worked out great. They look and feel like 100% cotton chino fabric, but actually have a tiny bit of stretch in them. I bought them because unlike most of pants everywhere, the waist to hip ratio is closer to one, which suits my straight, ahem, large waist, rectangular body type. The hips width is smaller than most pants out there and I think they get away with it because of the stretch material. I think they actually look too tight around the hips on the models featured in the online store. They are so tight at the hips, that one can see the unsightly outline of the pockets. On my body though, the pants are still slightly loose around the hips, so no visible pocket lines on me (yay). I was surprised to find button closures instead of a zipper on these pants. I prefer zippers over buttons, but this isn’t a big deal. The front pockets are generous enough for my cell phone which is really important for me while I’m moving around at work.
What about you? Any good finds lately or have you ever changed your mind on an item of clothing after seeing it on someone else?