a few good links


  • I recently discovered a blog called “The Petite Pear Project”, dedicated to writing about getting dressed as a pear shaped petite woman.  I admire the narrow focus of her blog (some of the best blogs focus narrowly on one topic, and do it well).  I liked her new post on the issue of variable sizing across clothing brands, here.
  • I was moved by this Racked article about one woman’s experience of guilt over getting dressed in expensive clothes against her background of starting out poor. Having been between two classes my entire life, I can’t get dressed without thinking about class politics and feeling guilty about finances too.
  • And for those of you who are physicians or future physicians, I discovered this great new blog by Wall Street MD.  He wrote a very concise and clear article on the importance of disability insurance recently.  He personally answered a lot of my questions through e-mail.  The other day I listened to an episode of Dave Ramsey and was horrified by the bad advice he gave one poor physician who was in a deep hole of student loan debt that seemed insurmountable with her relatively small income.  At least in that episode, he was not up to date with the nuances of the student loan forgiveness programs and basically gave her advice that would cost her hundreds of thousands of dollars! I’m disturbed by how many people might have gone down a path of financial ruin by following his shallow advice.  The White Coat Investor wrote a letter to Dave Ramsey to call him out on it.  I think finally Ramsey has updated his knowledge, but for years he was giving out bad info.  This does not give me much confidence in his advice beyond some of his simpler points of paying down debt and tracking your expenses.  I want to be better informed about these personal finance gurus, so next on my reading list is this book, Pound Foolish:  The Dark Side of the Personal Finance Industry.

[image:  Fan pattern on cloth at the Cooper Hewitt Design Museum]

4 thoughts on “a few good links

  1. I really enjoyed that Racked article! Although my “imposter syndrome” type feelings come from a slightly different place, I thought she really captured a discomfort I’m familiar with, this sense that I have x job and y income but it’s all temporary, it’s not really “me” or who I am. While I worked hard to get this sort of job (which I absolutely needed to pay for the education it took to get there in the first place), there’s so much luck involved. Tons of people who started law school right before or after the 2008 recession from my school, or better ones, never got those jobs and are kind of a “lost generation” of lawyers.

    I don’t have quite as much of a discomfort with shopping for myself (I seem to be good at distracting myself completely from most serious thoughts when I’m thinking about shopping), though more broadly, I feel a lot of guilt about my overall (highly indulgent) lifestyle as compared to my parents’ and my relatives’ lifestyles. This happens with a lot of my biglaw and biglaw-adjacent friends. For the most part, we each individually made more than both of our parents combined right out of the gate which is just… a lot to think about.


    1. I’ve heard lawyers talk about the dismal job market before. It’s really sad because law school is expensive and a lot of blood sweat and tears. I’m glad to hear you dodged the recession. I would say the guilt isn’t something that is is heavily felt.. it’s barely perceptible when shopping but there’s a low level background of guilt/gratitude .. and I do think it shapes the what I choose to buy. Things can be expensive but still be humble in its appearance. No flashy watches or designer handbags.. I don’t think I could enjoy them even if I could afford them lol. To each their own though.


  2. Thanks for the Petite Pear rec! I have nearly the same shape as the blogger (my shoulders are wider, though, so I’m more of an “hourglass”); I can relate to her frustration. Smaller sizes often assume a “ruler” shape; in addition to alterations for length, I often need to have the waist taken in on trousers or changes to the straps/sleeves on tops and dresses. It’s not the end of the world, but still extra time and effort.

    I thought the video explaining how brands select fit models was really interesting…


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